Friday, June 1, 2012

REMEMBERING GRANDPA


Yesterday was the last day of May—the final day of the last full month of spring, and the birthday of my maternal grandfather, Fred R. Williams, born in 1879. When I was growing up, Grandpa and Grandma lived just up street, having moved there from their farm in the hills of eastern Kentucky at the start of World War II. 

When Grandpa and Grandma first got married, they lived in a log cabin in a remote and rugged holler called Bear Branch, so named because not too many years earlier, a very large black bear had been killed nearby. That's the way they name things thereabouts—either after the first family to settle the spot, a distinctive natural feature, or some noteworthy event. Thus you have such places as Oil Springs, Split-Rock Gap, Copperhead Ridge, Paw Paw Bottom, Panther Steep, Rockhouse, Sassafras Creek, Elk Creek, Paint Creek, Salt Branch, Indian Holler, Pound Mill Branch. Wonderful names—vivid, descriptive, historical, indigenous. 

My Uncle Don was born in that hewn log cabin—though he was preceded by a boy, and a year later, a girl, both either stillborn or living only a few hours. Grandpa, a carpenter, built their caskets. Later, Grandpa and Grandma bought a rugged and only partially cleared tract of land a mile or so away, which they—along with their growing family—sustenance farmed for the next four decades. Grandpa also kept up his carpentry, building all sorts of things for himself and his neighbors, from wagons and barns, to houses and caskets. 

He could do finer work, too—making toolboxes, cases for clocks, and wooden spoons. I've watched him split a length of hickory, rough out a blank for an axe handle with a drawknife, pocket knife, and spokeshave, finish silky smooth with pieces of broken glass and scouring reeds instead of sandpaper, ending with a rubbed-in coat of linseed oil. The whole business took less than an hour and looked as good as anything sold in a hardware store. 

Grandpa Williams was sturdy-but-lean, tall, and stood ramrod straight. His hair was thick and coal black, though in his last years it changed to a silver-white. In the old black and white photos, Grandpa often looks stern, serious, but in truth he was neither—though he wasn't a noisy laugh-a-minute, practical-joking cut-up like everyone on Grandma's side of the family…and I suspect he was sorely tried on more than one occasion seeing as how every one of his offspring, at least to some degree, inherited Grandma's fun-loving, laugh-at-anything disposition. But Grandpa had his moments, too, and wasn't above joining in on the teasing and tomfoolery. He was always coming up with some new name to annoy me with, usually a two-parter—Jim-Tom, Dick-Ike, Rosco-John, Bill-Peter—though it never much worked, because I loved him too dearly and answered cheerfully to whatever he invented.

I never knew my paternal grandparents. But I got to be around Grandma and Grandpa Williams for nearly twenty years—and I treasure that time as one of the most wonderful blessings of my life. They both taught me many things. Most of all, they gave me a sense of roots, of heritage, of being born into a world with personal, blood-bought history. 

Grandpa's stories weren't just tales…they were my stories. I thought about some of them yesterday as I ambled around an old field making photos—including the one of the bumble-bee on the clover. Family stories of those who fought in the Civil War, and Revolutionary War; of coming down the Wilderness Road with Daniel Boone; stories of specters and haints; of big snakes, bear hunts, panthers, wildcats, wolves and elk and buffalo; of hills and cliffs and caves, rock-houses and bubbling springs; of murder and bloodshed; of a lost silver mine; of Jenny Wiley, who lived near an ancestor, and how she was infamously kidnapped by the Shawnee, though later escaped.

I wish I could hear them all again. Alas, I can only replay them in my head, though in Grandpa's slow, rich voice, with his hand gestures and facial expressions, and the gleaming intensity of his brown eyes…my mother's eyes, my eyes. 

Happy Birthday, Grandpa. I love you and miss you, but I'll never forget.
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12 comments:

Gail said...

HI GRIZZ -
so beautifully written - so wonderful a tribute - so glorious your memories - hallelujah to every word! Ad happy birthday to your unforgettable Grandpa! A life that lives on......
Love Gail
peace.....

Grizz………… said...

Gail…

Thank you. Maybe there's a sort of immortality achieved so long as someone remembers you. If so, then Grandpa lives.

AfromTO said...

I never knew any grandparents-so I think I will adopt yours.sounds like good people

Grizz………… said...

AfromTO…

Gentle, strong, loving, independent, resourceful, hard-working, potentially fierce—by today's mentality and culture, almost impossible to even imagine…but good, good people. As were so many of the pioneer stock and their descendants in that region and time. I say, not because of me but because of them, you couldn't adopt any finer.

KGMom said...

There is something magical in the inter-generational link between grandparent and grandchild.
I have wonderful memories of a favoritew grandparent--even though I knew all four of my grandparents, I favored one. And, as eldest grandchild, I was favored in return.
Thanks for sharing your story.

Grizz………… said...

KGMom…

Yes, there is, and maybe it's simply because they can so easily make that link with a past prior to your parents. Everything about them, from speech to dress to mannerisms, is so obviously rooted in another time, a history at once distant and yet right before your eyes. And grandparents understand kids in a way I don't think parents ever manage, having learned how to make time, to listen and understand, communicate—there's a great wisdom in the old, and I think kids recognize and understand that.

Robin said...

Where do I start? I guess, Happy Birthday!

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Jenny Wiley? I've been to that park many times in my childhood. Never really knew the history.

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Please tell the stories as you remember them. Please?

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And re: place names..... Now, how do you explain Monkey's Jaw? ")

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Thank you for speaking in my language....

Grizz………… said...

Robin…

I grew up on stories of Jenny Wiley and the lost silver mine of John Swift…both being set within miles of where my parents—and several generations on both sides—were born and raised. They all came down the Wilderness Road with Boone, and were among the first white settlers in the region. Later, they fought in the Revolutionary War, were scouts with George Rogers Clark, and several of my uncles and a grandfather were killed, along with Boone's son Israel, at the Battle of Bluelicks. Others served on both sides in The civil War…though most of the mountaineers were independents—or more accurately Yankee-leaning who lived south of the Mason-Dixion line. Very few of the region owned slaves (well, their kids might have disagreed!) although it wasn't unheard of; but by and large, they were just farmers and hunters.

One interesting aside…one of my great (Xs3) grandfathers lived in three states and five counties—which were all one-and-the-same place. That's when the states were being formed and reformed, their borders yet to be set as they are today.

I will try and tell some of the stories in future posts. I know these longer posts aren't to everyone's liking, so I'll intersperse with shorter nature ones…but I will tell at least a few of the stories I've heard so many, many time. I think they're entertaining if not worthwhile.

I love the old names…Lick Skillet, Bandana, Monkey's Paw, Dogleg, Sun Dab, Rooster Rise, Biscuit…though some doubtless have a real story behind them.

Kelly said...

...interesting reading, Grizz, and a wonderful tribute too...

Grizz………… said...

Kelly…

Thank you. A bit long for this blog, and of course, not nature…but I didn't start out with nature-only posts in mind. And I enjoyed telling a tiny bit about Grandpa.

Rowan said...

You are so lucky to have a grandfather that you can remember, I never knew either of mine nor my maternal grandmother. How great to have the memory of all those wonderful stories that he told you.

Grizz………… said...

Rowan…

Yes, it was a real gift, having my grandfather (and Grandma) around as long as I did—hearing their stories. I only wish I could remember more. But I'm thankful for what I do recall, and I can still hear Grandpa's voice.